Sometimes, a person happens to meet someone whom he or she immediately loves and spontaneously develops some sort of affinity with.
Sometimes, a person happens to meet someone whom he or she immediately loves and spontaneously develops some sort of affinity with. The reverse can apply when the same person meets up with another person. The point is one does not know the reason why one feels good toward some people and feels bad toward others. Is there some sort of connection between their souls?
Here is an hypothesis answers partially this question: the matching hypothesis.
The matching hypothesis (also known as the matching phenomenon) is
derived from the discipline of social psychology and was (first) proposed
by Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues in 1966, which suggests why
people become attracted to their partner. It claims that people are more
likely to form and succeed in a committed relationship with someone who
is equally socially desirable. This is often researched in the form of
physical attraction.
In recent studies, the evidence for Matching Hypothesis is mixed in the realm of romantic attraction and mate
selection. There is definitely a tendency for men and women to marry
spouses who resemble them. Researchers have found extensive similarity
between marital partners on characteristics such as age, race,
ethnicity, education level, socioeconomic status, religion, and physical
attractiveness as well as on a host of personality traits and cognitive
abilities. This well-documented tendency for similar individuals to
marry is commonly referred to as homogamy or assortment.
However Prophet Mohammed had somehow montioned to this hypothesis when he said: "the souls are like recruited soldiers, they get mixed up with those similar with them in qualities and oppose and drift away from those who do not share their qualities"
Those of similar qualities will easily be friends when they meet in this
life, while those who have different natures are likely to be in
conflict. This in fact accounts for endless cases of people getting
along together when their apparent circumstances should have kept them
well apart. Moreover, it tells us something about what brings good
people together and what allows evil ones to flock together and even
trust one another, when they know that they are evil at heart.
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